NO ! I cant accept it. They are four things that you should not break ; 1) heart 2) Relationship 3) Trust 4) Promise , because when these are broken, it may not create sound but it put tons of pain to your partner.
When one has been unfaithful already, it just mean that he/she already broke this 4.
for me, yes, if my partner will able to tell me the truth and confront me what's the reason why he do that. and if he feel really sorry for doing that to me. also if he will change the things the way he used to.
Yes, as long as he could manage to tell me the why,but definitely that reason should be reasonable enough. Also, if he would be able to convince me that he's really regretful over things. Yes it's hard to accept that someone you love has been unfaithful to you, but everybody deserves a second chances - but not for the same mistake.hehe :)
One of the things one can do is to deal with the present. What is the present stand of your husband. Is he sorry and asking your forgiveness? Do not condemn, or else you will never be able to forget. Remember what Jesus said to Mary Magdalene: John 8:11, "Then neither do I condemn you," Jesus declared. "Go now and leave your life of sin." Jesus did not condemn so he had nothing to forgive about (-Maxwell Maltz).
Second, help him to recover his self-worth and dignity. Arrange with him about the things both of you should do so he will not commit unfaithfulness again and you will be able to build your trust again. Life is short and dealing with this problems is a good path and it will teach you enough to become a better person.
If you condemn and later forgive, remember to dissolve condemnation. If you forgive and yet feel dominance or superiority on moral disposition over him because he was unfaithful, it will not become a happy marriage. You cannot deal with the past anymore, it's a lost battle, because the past cannot be changed. But you can change your interpretation of the past, and you can deal with the present and plan for a good future.
Actual change happens not in the past, but in the present and the future. Your interpretation of the past belongs to the present time, in the 'now'. It can make angry or it can make you understanding, creative and solution-oriented.
i consider second chances, as long as it wont happen again.
ill search into myself what went wrong that led to infidelity. the problem might be me.
No! In relationship, there are a lot of things in which we can adjust and accept...but not unfaithfulness.